Getting older comes with challenges. We may not look the same, our health may not be what it used to be, and we may not be able to do the things we once did.
We’ve probably retired from a career, downsized our home and possessions, and most likely had family members and friends die.
For many, aging and retirement can be unexpectedly difficult.
But it can also be unexpectedly fulfilling as we can go places and do things we didn’t previously have the time or finances to do.
Chaplain Christopher Kringen provides spiritual comfort and care to residents as they navigate the aging process.
He has witnessed the difficult and fulfilling aspects during his five years serving Good Samaritan Society – Prairie Creek and Sioux Falls Center in Sioux Falls, South Dakota.
He offers these insights:
Be ready to adapt
“I think aging with grace means adapting to changes by facing them in a positive way. I always think change, especially if you have faith in something beyond this life means that nothing is really ever final or fatal because you know that God is going to take care of you.”
Let yourself grieve
Even when the change is something you’ve looked forward to and planned for, such as retiring or moving into a senior community, it can be difficult.
“Meet losses with a balanced approach. So often, we think of the things that were so much better when we were younger or could do more, but it’s important to accentuate the positive aspects of what's happening now.”
Find comfort from Scripture
“2 Corinthians 4:16-5:10 begins by talking about how outwardly we are perishing – and that’s reality – but inwardly we are being renewed day by day.
“2 Corinthians 4 also talks about our afflictions being light and momentary. You have to remind yourself if you have faith, you will live forever.
“Proverbs 3:5-6 says to trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.
Count your blessings. Remember how God was there in the past and how he’ll be there in the future, too.
“Philippians 4:8 tells us the types of things to think about – whatever is pure, right and true.
“Isaiah 46:4 says even to your old age and gray hairs, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you, and I will carry you, and I will rescue you.”
Combat loneliness
“Living in a retirement community is a helpful thing because you can meet new friends and learn new skills.
“If you live alone, check with local churches and community organizations like senior centers to help you get connected with Bible studies and other groups.
“There is a helpful resource on the internet called Spiritual Eldercare that offers free resources to meet the needs of older adults.”
Seek out new ways to serve
“A common myth is that older people are set in their ways, and I don’t think that’s true. Many people are open-minded and may be looking for new and good experiences. Many have a desire to try new things, including volunteer opportunities.
“Helping others can provide meaning and purpose and be a good way to make new friends with people who have common interests and hobbies.”
Plan ahead
“Plan ahead so that when you approach the next big change in life you will be ready. Do something good for yourself today so that tomorrow it won’t be so difficult.”
